Jeff Stevens
GCN Live.com
Here are 10 common error men make when dating women. Usually these lead to man’s most feared outcome – REJECTION. These are in no particular order.
ERROR 1: Talking about bad things from your past.
She is not mama or your psychologist, so do not treat her as such.
ERROR 2: Looking at the waitress (or other women) when with her.
This seems pretty obvious but you would not believe the number of men that still stare at the waitress and wonder why she gets turned off.
ERROR 3: Giving the lady too many compliments.
It is acceptable to tell her she looks nice when you pick her up and tell her that you had a good time when dropping her off. Anything beyond that and you look like you are a WIMPUS AMERICANUS that is begging for affection.
ERROR 4: Giving presents too early.
You cannot buy her affection. If gifts really worked than every rich guy would be married and every poor guy would be always single. Thankfully it does not work that way. Again, too many gifts, too early, and you look like you are begging for affection.
ERROR 5: Putting your paws on her too much.
Putting your arm around her. Holding her hand. You are attacking her comfort level when you do this. Keep your hands to yourself.
ERROR 6: Making it a “heavy subject” night.
In dating she wants it light and she wants it humorous. Do not talk about the latest wars in the news or your views on religion or politics. Think about it this way, if the list of subjects discussed would impress your political science professor, they probably are not good date subjects.
ERROR 7: Telling her how much you are into her.
First of all, you might very well scare her off if you gush on as to how you have always wanted her but beyond that, she wants to wonder between dates as to how you are really feeling. If you blurt out that you like her a lot, then she figures, “I got another one.” She wants mystery and challenge!
ERROR 8: Calling her the next day or within a few days after a date.
We teach guys on our dating women radio show that you should wait 5-9 days to call between dates. No other guy does that and it goes along with her wanting to know you SLOWLY. Let her come after you.
ERROR 9: Talking about the future on a date with her.
A lot of guys will ask for another date during the date. Again, you are absolutely ruining mystery and challenge when you do this. Even the NICEST GIRL in the world will EAT YOU ALIVE if she figures she has you right where she wants you and there is nothing to chase after.
ERROR 10: Putting yourself below her in your mind just because she is physically attractive to you.
I am not saying you have to be some hard edged guy but if she says something off kilter, call her on it. You cannot be afraid to be real with her. She does not want a wimpy guy that acts like he is too happy to be out with her.
Remember guys, if you avoid these 10 errors with dating women, you have a much better shot of avoiding REJECTION.
Jeff Stevens is the co-host of The Doc Love Show, which airs on GCN Saturdays 9:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m. Central Time. Listen to the show On Demand. For more information on Doc Love and his relationship services, visit DocLove.com
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Jeff, you are 100% right. I don’t agree because the petty games girls play get old in a hurry. I guess if I get back to dating I will have to play the stupid psychological mind games. There are very few real women anymore and the ones you meet are married. Finding a real woman is like a diamond in the ruff but maybe that is how it is supposed to be. They all read the same bs dating/glamour magazines and play the same mind games. Once you call them on it they get upset with you. The mind manipulation games get worse after marriage. My dad told me to wait as long as you can to get married. 8 out 10 of my friends say never get married until you are ready for kids. The other 2 of my friends that enjoy it is because their wives cut their balls off. Guys were not made to be manipulative like the girls. The manipulation girls do comes so naturally to them they don’t even realize they are doing it. It is our sin nature spoken about in Genesis chapter 3. I have been told by a handful of people don’t mess with American women. Go to Asia or parts of Europe where the women are more humble, thankful, and have a higher level of respect towards men than American girls. The culture has polluted their thinking and make them believe this is how you are supposed to act. Playing these games is the right thing to do. American girls buy into it.
I agree with you 100% but I don’t like playing games. You might not call it games and say that is the way it is. That could be true.