Here are 10 common error men make when dating women. Usually these lead to man’s most feared outcome – REJECTION. These are in no particular order.
ERROR 1: Talking about bad things from your past.
She is not mama or your psychologist, so do not treat her as such.
ERROR 2: Looking at the waitress (or other women) when with her.
This seems pretty obvious but you would not believe the number of men that still stare at the waitress and wonder why she gets turned off.
ERROR 3: Giving the lady too many compliments.
It is acceptable to tell her she looks nice when you pick her up and tell her that you had a good time when dropping her off. Anything beyond that and you look like you are a WIMPUS AMERICANUS that is begging for affection.
ERROR 4: Giving presents too early.
You cannot buy her affection. If gifts really worked than every rich guy would be married and every poor guy would be always single. Thankfully it does not work that way. Again, too many gifts, too early, and you look like you are begging for affection.
ERROR 5: Putting your paws on her too much.
Putting your arm around her. Holding her hand. You are attacking her comfort level when you do this. Keep your hands to yourself.
ERROR 6: Making it a “heavy subject” night.
In dating she wants it light and she wants it humorous. Do not talk about the latest wars in the news or your views on religion or politics. Think about it this way, if the list of subjects discussed would impress your political science professor, they probably are not good date subjects.
ERROR 7: Telling her how much you are into her.
First of all, you might very well scare her off if you gush on as to how you have always wanted her but beyond that, she wants to wonder between dates as to how you are really feeling. If you blurt out that you like her a lot, then she figures, “I got another one.” She wants mystery and challenge!
ERROR 8: Calling her the next day or within a few days after a date.
We teach guys on our dating women radio show that you should wait 5-9 days to call between dates. No other guy does that and it goes along with her wanting to know you SLOWLY. Let her come after you.
ERROR 9: Talking about the future on a date with her.
A lot of guys will ask for another date during the date. Again, you are absolutely ruining mystery and challenge when you do this. Even the NICEST GIRL in the world will EAT YOU ALIVE if she figures she has you right where she wants you and there is nothing to chase after.
ERROR 10: Putting yourself below her in your mind just because she is physically attractive to you.
I am not saying you have to be some hard edged guy but if she says something off kilter, call her on it. You cannot be afraid to be real with her. She does not want a wimpy guy that acts like he is too happy to be out with her.
Remember guys, if you avoid these 10 errors with dating women, you have a much better shot of avoiding REJECTION.
Jeff Stevens is the co-host of The Doc Love Show, which airs on GCN Saturdays 9:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m. Central Time. Listen to the show On Demand. For more information on Doc Love and his relationship services, visit DocLove.com